Category Archives: Luck

Somewhere over the Rainbow!

Beautiful! by KMH

Last week being St Patty’s day brought to mind all of the other images that go along with the luck of the Irish. Pot’s of gold, rainbows and leprechauns. The gold and rainbows especially brought to mind the parallels to searching for your purpose, goal or calling in life.

Rainbows are elusive and fleeting, we can see them under certain circumstances and as those circumstances change it vanishes. Two people do not see the same rainbow and we can only see it with our backs to the sun. And the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow as you learn the reality of what a rainbow is becomes something one can never get to let alone possess.

“The appearances of things change according to the emotions, and thus we see magic and beauty in them, while the magic and beauty are really in ourselves.”  Kahlil Gibran

On a symbolic level I find this an interesting and meaningful metaphor in coaching. We set our goals; intuit our purpose or calling and then the path there seems to vanish under certain circumstances. Only when we turn our backs to the sun – symbolically embracing our shadow -does the rainbow appear bright and tangible. The gold for which we long is our own transformation or alchemical change into the valued treasure we are.

“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.” The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Embracing your shadow is to accept and acknowledge your shortcomings and self perceived negative attributes, something I keep mentioning. Doing this makes you more compassionate towards yourself and others. It makes you aware of your own complexity and your humanity.

“I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly,
acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.”
Agatha Christie

So harking back to last week’s comments about setting a goal and then letting go of how you get there, give it a try this week. Start simple. Tell yourself what you want to accomplish and let yourself be open to how to get there, do things you don’t normally do, make a point to think outside your box.

“Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born.”  Dale E. Turner

 

Feeling Lucky?!

Thai Dragon with lucky ball inside By KMH

Are you a lucky person?

“Go and wake up your luck.”
Persian Saying

There is a lot written about luck and how to create more of it in your life. There also seems to be some traits among people who consider themselves to be lucky. They tend to be flexible, open-mined, positive and resilient. They know that not very chance or risk taken will turn out perfectly, but they take it and move on.

Last week I posted a quote that serendipity tends to favor people who have a clear picture of their goal but are not attached to how they get there. This can allow for creative and unusual ways for plans to unfold, and for serendipity, synchronicity or luck to happen.

So as you get more and more clear about what you want in life, be conscious of the fact that attaining that goal can take a multitude of paths. The idea of having a map and a clear vision of the future serves to keep your eyes on the big picture on the primary goal.

So take some time to evaluate your set of skills regarding luck.

Flexibility; this can be hard to cultivate as we tend to become rigid not only regarding the out-come of things but also to our patterns of action and progress. Practice not being attached: if people change plans on you; let it go. If you thought you were going to have an important meeting you were looking forward to and it changes; let it go. The ability to be flexible not only lessens stress it keeps you creative with your time and energy. Having to switch gears in the middle of something or in the midst of momentum can make room for other opportunities, other directions or other meetings you may not have anticipated that could bring you something positive.

“Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity”
Seneca – Roman philosopher

Do different things. Putting yourself out there to learn new things and meet different people can lead to new connections and discoveries of new interests. Check out unlikely avenues and possibilities. I recently found a new sight with very interesting articles about doing new things all the time, and in particular discovering new passions. Here is the link:

http://dosomethingcool.net/11-ways-discover-passions/

Resilience may be one of the most important factors not only in achieving your goals but in turning yourself into a lucky person. Being resilient means that your ability to bounce back from things that don’t go your way; or disappointments in risks taken builds your self-esteem, self trust and flexibility. Resiliency reminds you that to fail does not mean you are a failure.

“You may be disappointed if you fail, but you will be doomed if you don’t try.”
Beverly Sills – American Opera soprano 1960’s

QUESTION OF THE WEEK:
Can you become more flexible, more open-minded or more resilient?

 

What’s Luck Got To Do With It?

Luck Dragon! By KMH

Create your own luck!

March is dedicated to Luck. Often people seek out a coach because they need help navigating through tough times, transition or need help getting going. In these times what we most want is … an opportunity.  This opportunity can come to people in many different ways, some of them seemingly out-of-the blue, or by sheer luck!

“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.”
Milton Berle

For me luck can also be serendipity, synchronicity or chance, and this is how Wikipedia defines them:

Luck or fortuity is good or bad fortune in life caused by accident or chance, and attributed by some to reasons of faith or superstition, which happens beyond a person’s control.

Serendipity denotes the property of making fortunate discoveries while looking for something unrelated, or the occurrence of such a discovery during such a search.

Synchronicity is the experience of two or more events, that are apparently causally unrelated or unlikely to occur together by chance, that are observed to occur together in a meaningful manner.

I find all of these phenomenons fascinating and relevant to coaching because they seem to happen with more frequency when one is in alignment with a path they feel certainly and passionate about.

This week I encourage you to think about the opportunities you’d like to have, and the chances you’d like to be given that would make a difference in your life. There is a lot to be said for the so-called happenstance occurrences in life and what one reads into them.

“Serendipity smiles upon people who have a more relaxed approach to life…. Once they’ve pinpointed the ultimate destination, they believe there are many different ways to get there. This requires openness to life’s surprising twists and turns as well as cognitive and behavioral flexibility.”
Rebecca Webber

This month we will explore how to create luck, and how to feel like a lucky person.

QUESTIONS FOR THE WEEK:

Do you believe in luck? When were times in your life when things just fell into place? Do you believe you can create luck?