Spring Cleaning the soul!

Mother Earth Spring Cleaning! By KMH

The delicate green of new life will not be denied; the growth is going to happen no matter what… life will not be stopped!

Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion.  You must set yourself on fire.  ~Arnold H. Glasow

This all relates to coaching in that often times we are so focused on the future and achieving those important goals that we forget about our present situation and the importance of keeping it in good shape; be it our mind, body, home, environment or finances.  We can only do what our present moment allows, and making smart choices in the present that will effect how our future unfolds.

The important thing is to strive towards a goal, which is not immediately visible.  That goal is not the concern of the mind, but of the spirit.
~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Take a look around at your world it is up to you to make it a rich and supportive place to act from.

Go through the closets, the clothes, and the drawers – what doesn’t fit anymore, or is old, getting raggedy, isn’t you?

Go through the medicine cabinets, what’s expired, dried up or empty?

Go through the refrigerator, what’s growing of it’s own accord, old, sticky or stale?

Go through your checkbook, the saving accounts, and the 5-year plan; what need your attention, a change of perspective, and influx of life?

Go through the garage, and the attic or basement; what’s taking up space that you don’t need, care about or want. Are there things you can donate, give to a friend, or sell on e-bay?

Go through your yard and the garden, what needs new soil, to be weeded, or to be planted anew?

“I think that no matter how old or infirm I may become, I will always plant a large garden in the spring.  Who can resist the feelings of hope and joy that one gets from participating in nature’s rebirth?”
~Edward Giobb

Go through your wishes and dreams and plans and goals, what have you not been paying attention to, feeding or opening your heart to?

QUESTION:
What can you clean out to make room for more of you?

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Blooming!!

Lilacs in Bloom By KMH

April is dedicated to beginnings.

“No matter how long the winter, spring is sure to follow.”
~Proverb

Even though the Spring Equinox is in March, a least where I am, it does not start to feel like spring until May.  Now is when a real sense of coming to life and blooming starts to happen!

When the weather is warming up and the winter layers are coming off our thoughts turn to the world outside – spending time outside, how we look outside, projects on our homes, in our yards. We become more social, more active, and more outward.

The term spring-cleaning relates to not just our home, but also our attitudes, our plans for the future and our outlook on life.  As our life unfolds our vision of the future shifts and changes and it is important to take the time to clear away what is outdated, out grown or simply no use to us anymore.

Here are a few reasons this is so important:

  • The process makes room for more appropriate things in our life, be it an object or opportunities.
  • Feels good
  • Strengthens your resolve to keep achieving important goals and to be mindful of what you have and are grateful for
  • Keeps your “house in order”
  • Reveals issues or potential issues before they’re problems

I am one of the few that really enjoys cleaning and organizing; and I realize that most people do not relish this process, but keep in mind that even though it is most often physical and hard work – you cannot deny how good it feels to have your world clean, organized and ready for new and amazing opportunities.

“Spring is when you feel like whistling even with a shoe full of slush.”
~Doug Larson

QUESTION OF THE WEEK:
What needs to be done to make room for the new in your life?
What can be cleaned up?

Trust like only the fool can…

Trusting By J. Goeller

How to trust as only The Fool can…

Deep abiding trust in yourself is essential for living a fulfilled life. So how does one trust? Well, it takes time. Trusting yourself is a relationship that you have to build, support, and nurture.

Trusting yourself means that you take actions, think thoughts and speak words that are in alignment with your values and needs.  And trust that what you want no matter how outside the realm of your imagination – it is achievable.

By believing passionately in something that still does not exist, we create it.
The non-existence is whatever we have not sufficiently desired.
Nikos Kazantzakis – Poet, travel writer – Author of “Zorba the Greek”

Often times we do seemingly inconsequential things that serve to damage our trust in ourselves. For instance, how often do you tell yourself you’re going to do something and you don’t? How often do you make yourself a promise and then blow it off? These actions though they seem harmless build the expectation that you don’t follow through on your word. So when it becomes important to have this strength, you don’t.

Eighty percent of success is just showing up.
Woody Allen

So when you are making an agreement with yourself or to another person, slow down, consider what you are agreeing to and above all check out if you can truly agree to it. If you can’t and you know it – don’t; and if you can – then do your best to make sure you follow through on your agreement. This builds trust with yourself and others.

Another way to build trust with yourself is to get clear! Clarity about what you truly want usually makes most decisions fall into two categories, actions that help you get there and actions that don’t.

The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being
can alter his life by altering his attitudes of mind.
William James – late 1800’s pioneering American psychologist and philosopher

QUESTIONS OF THE WEEK:
In what way can you build more trust in yourself? Are you aware when you make agreements?

Fool or Foolish?

Me on my precipice! Greece 2009 By KMH

Chance is the fool‘s name for Fate
Fred Astaire

The fool can bring to mind lots of images both positive and negative, which begs the distinction between the archetypal fool and being foolish.

“Better a witty fool than a foolish wit.”
William Shakespeare

In coaching as we journey toward the life we want and the fulfillment we deserve there are risks to be taken and leaps of faith to be made.

Weather it be at the moment that you must write (or not write) the check for a new office lease or take (or not take) the job offer in another country, say yes (or no) to a marriage proposal or take (or not take) the opportunity to study with a well known violinist; there are pivotal choices we make that change the direction of our path.

“To the wise, life is a problem; to the fool, a solution”
Marcus Aurelius

The Fool has the characteristics of doing these things not out of abandon or recklessness but from a posture of having followed his/her intuition closely and deep trust. Consider the image of the fool in our culture:

The fool in a deck of cards is the “ jokers wild card” it allows your next move to be outside the normal rules of play – thus allowing you to turn the tide of the game in your favor, or to stymie your opponent.

The fool as in the “jester of the court” of a king was an important person. Though he did function as entertainer and magician he was a stealthy tool for the King in that because of his status and knowledge of the castle he could go anywhere openly and more than likely had intimate knowledge of the workings of the castle and the people in it.  For a king he would be invaluable counsel.

The fool in the Tarot is often a young person seen traveling and seemingly about to take a step off the steep precipice.  He radiates a “crazy wisdom” and glowing and being at ease in the world.  This card is the number 0 in the deck and symbolizes that he can become anything.

QUESTIONS OF THE WEEK:
Are you being foolish in your life anywhere?  Can you see places in your life that could benefit from trusting more?  Where could you use a “wild card” in your life?

 

Here’s to the Fool’s!!

Fools!! By KMH

This month is dedicated to the Fool! The fool is an archetypal image that symbolizes many things including free spirit, incredible trust, taking leaps of faith and marching to your own beat.

“The secret to life is to have a task, something you devote your entire life to… and the most important thing is – it must be something you cannot possibly do!”
~ Henry Moore – English sculptor and artist

In many ways the fool can be seen as an innocent mind open to being lead by a benevolent universe. When it comes to coaching I think the fool can be used as a powerful tool to bring out, capitalize and nurture parts of your personality that may not get much attention, but are important and critical aspects to creating the life you want.

What parts of you are innocent – meaning filled with child-like wonder, curiosity and in-the moment awareness? What parts of you are free spirited and able to take leaps of faith? What parts of you are able to freely trust and do your own thing when others are following “the way it’s always been”?

“What we need are more people who specialize in the impossible.”
Theodore Roethke – American Poet

The fool is a part of you that says; I’ve never tried it but I’ll give it a shot. If you are to accomplish the life you want, more than likely it will involve trying some new things, going out on a limb, taking some risk, believing in yourself – that you can reach a goal bigger than you.

You can do it!!

QUESTIONS OF THE WEEK:
This week find that child-like wonder about the world, your everyday life. What can you look at in a new way? How can you trust yourself even more that you are on the right path to life you deserve?

 

Somewhere over the Rainbow!

Beautiful! by KMH

Last week being St Patty’s day brought to mind all of the other images that go along with the luck of the Irish. Pot’s of gold, rainbows and leprechauns. The gold and rainbows especially brought to mind the parallels to searching for your purpose, goal or calling in life.

Rainbows are elusive and fleeting, we can see them under certain circumstances and as those circumstances change it vanishes. Two people do not see the same rainbow and we can only see it with our backs to the sun. And the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow as you learn the reality of what a rainbow is becomes something one can never get to let alone possess.

“The appearances of things change according to the emotions, and thus we see magic and beauty in them, while the magic and beauty are really in ourselves.”  Kahlil Gibran

On a symbolic level I find this an interesting and meaningful metaphor in coaching. We set our goals; intuit our purpose or calling and then the path there seems to vanish under certain circumstances. Only when we turn our backs to the sun – symbolically embracing our shadow -does the rainbow appear bright and tangible. The gold for which we long is our own transformation or alchemical change into the valued treasure we are.

“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.” The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Embracing your shadow is to accept and acknowledge your shortcomings and self perceived negative attributes, something I keep mentioning. Doing this makes you more compassionate towards yourself and others. It makes you aware of your own complexity and your humanity.

“I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly,
acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.”
Agatha Christie

So harking back to last week’s comments about setting a goal and then letting go of how you get there, give it a try this week. Start simple. Tell yourself what you want to accomplish and let yourself be open to how to get there, do things you don’t normally do, make a point to think outside your box.

“Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born.”  Dale E. Turner

 

Feeling Lucky?!

Thai Dragon with lucky ball inside By KMH

Are you a lucky person?

“Go and wake up your luck.”
Persian Saying

There is a lot written about luck and how to create more of it in your life. There also seems to be some traits among people who consider themselves to be lucky. They tend to be flexible, open-mined, positive and resilient. They know that not very chance or risk taken will turn out perfectly, but they take it and move on.

Last week I posted a quote that serendipity tends to favor people who have a clear picture of their goal but are not attached to how they get there. This can allow for creative and unusual ways for plans to unfold, and for serendipity, synchronicity or luck to happen.

So as you get more and more clear about what you want in life, be conscious of the fact that attaining that goal can take a multitude of paths. The idea of having a map and a clear vision of the future serves to keep your eyes on the big picture on the primary goal.

So take some time to evaluate your set of skills regarding luck.

Flexibility; this can be hard to cultivate as we tend to become rigid not only regarding the out-come of things but also to our patterns of action and progress. Practice not being attached: if people change plans on you; let it go. If you thought you were going to have an important meeting you were looking forward to and it changes; let it go. The ability to be flexible not only lessens stress it keeps you creative with your time and energy. Having to switch gears in the middle of something or in the midst of momentum can make room for other opportunities, other directions or other meetings you may not have anticipated that could bring you something positive.

“Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity”
Seneca – Roman philosopher

Do different things. Putting yourself out there to learn new things and meet different people can lead to new connections and discoveries of new interests. Check out unlikely avenues and possibilities. I recently found a new sight with very interesting articles about doing new things all the time, and in particular discovering new passions. Here is the link:

http://dosomethingcool.net/11-ways-discover-passions/

Resilience may be one of the most important factors not only in achieving your goals but in turning yourself into a lucky person. Being resilient means that your ability to bounce back from things that don’t go your way; or disappointments in risks taken builds your self-esteem, self trust and flexibility. Resiliency reminds you that to fail does not mean you are a failure.

“You may be disappointed if you fail, but you will be doomed if you don’t try.”
Beverly Sills – American Opera soprano 1960’s

QUESTION OF THE WEEK:
Can you become more flexible, more open-minded or more resilient?